“I hate my cat. Well, I don’t hate her, but she sometimes drives me crazy. The biting and scratching is really starting to get on my nerves, not to mention the hairballs that sometimes appear on my clothes or in my food. The saddest part of all this is that I still love her…and sometimes even miss her when she’s out at the cat hospital getting neutered. Her pointy nose that pokes in my face first thing every morning isn’t as annoying when she’s absent for a few days – when I send her off for surgery with a mixture of ‘struggle’, relief and sadness. Why do I love her so much and why do I hate her so?”
How do you live with a cat you hate?
If your cat is showing signs of feline stress, such as not using the litter tray, or attacking you, your friends or every neighborhood cat, there are many avenues of assistance, starting with your vet. However, this little story is about appreciating the cat for what it is and helping to design an environment that will enrich its life and thereby enrich yours!
Cats are often casualties of the modern urban environment. Their natural habitat is desert savannah, with one mile between feline territories, plus they should dine on mice and other small rodents which they have had to use ingenuity and training to catch.
It is we humans who have taken this intelligent and complex creature, called it a cat, and shared our house with it. And thus have we profoundly changed the rules, especially in the cramped living spaces and hurley burley we now call modern living.
Cats being the highly adaptable animals they are (felines occupy every ecological niche on earth except Antarctica) have fallen in with us in trying to make this thing work and sometimes their efforts are not appreciated.
Where once cats were prized as rodent catchers, they are now despised as bird destroyers, and where once it was only rare for one cat to meet another, now they can see and smell lots of other cats in backyards and across balconies. Many cats now live without ever touching grass and what is a car to a cat? No wonder 5 to 10 percent of cats lose the plot and need antidepressants and behavior modification therapy!
Everyone in the modern world is more confined — who sees children walking to school or playing on the streets anymore? Timetables are crowded and ‘home time’ is often brief and largely dormitory (my cats can understand why I like to sleep a lot at home, but they want some playtime with me too!), so even time with your cat has to be built into your day!
Remember that the more you put into your cat, the more you get out of it, and as I suspect the dog lovers have stopped reading by now, I will just throw in that cats are hard to train because they are smart and are very good at being cats, which isn’t always what we want! However, you can train cats and you can contain them, so they can’t hunt, get run over, be attacked by dogs or get lost.
The urban feline can be prevented from hunting birds by wearing a Liberator collar (it beeps as the cat launches its attack, thereby giving the bird more warning so it escapes, as even double bells tend to go quiet on lift-off). All forms of trauma can be prevented by enclosing parts of your garden or balcony with big cages (e.g. cat module parks or aviary-types structures), so your cat gets a room with a view but no danger. Cats will walk on harnesses (particularly the accident-prone Burmese and Siamese breeds) and will come when you call (if it is REALLY worth their while).
Wandering cats can be reliably returned if they are microchipped (and tagged, but so many cats shed their collars when they get lost), but they may also get lost, run over, killed by dogs, stolen, abused or maimed and they predate on wildlife and fight other cats. It is really your responsibility how YOUR cat spends its life — there are few free spirits left in the city, but everyone is entitled to the best chance of happiness that they can! See what you can do to create a kitty paradise in your home!
What do you do when you don’t want your cat anymore?
Surrendering your cat to an open admissions shelter or rescue organization is often the easiest and most humane option. The Humane Society, the ASPCA, and Petfinder are good resources for finding a local open admissions shelter or rescue organization near you.
Many people buy a cat or kitten with the best of intentions, but then their lifestyle changes, and they no longer have time for a pet. We’ve all seen the signs at neighborhood grocery stores or on bulletin boards: “Kittens free to good homes.” These are almost always ads run by well-meaning individuals who are trying to place young, healthy cats and kittens in homes. While there’s nothing wrong with this type of adoption, it’s not the ideal situation for the cats. A better alternative is finding a responsible breeder or rescue group in your area that has experience placing cats into permanent, loving homes.
Conclusion of hating my cat
Hating your cat is a common feeling.
I know this because I’ve felt it.
I love my cats, but I hate them too.
It’s not that they’re bad or annoying — they’re just cats. They do what cats do: they eat, sleep, get into trouble and make me worry about what they might be doing right now! But when these things become a constant source of stress for you, you start to hate them.
I think the most important thing to remember as a cat owner is that your cat isn’t trying to make you mad or ruin your day — it’s just being a cat!